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  • Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    “Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking, and relationships, they evolve to survive.”—Liz Ortecho, Roswell, New Mexico, Season 4, Episode 13 That line stopped me mid-scroll. There’s something beautifully raw about the idea that love isn’t static. It doesn’t stay preserved in the form we first found it. It shifts, stretches, and sometimes…

  • A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    At the end of winter 2023, my life was forever changed. My ex-husband left our home under police escort after five years of manipulation, physical, emotional, and financial abuse. I cried. It was both relief and distress. It was grief and joy. It was the sound of freedom ringing loudly, declaring a new chapter, and…

  • Patience in conflict

    I am bitterly passive aggressive. My family never fought so I ignore, punish, shame people when they wrong me. I am getting better at attacking conflict head on, but I have had to undo some petty things before the other person noticed. I’m starting to understand what good timing looks like. I’m starting to choose…

  • Gratitude and Apologies

    As I am working on being healthy and working out who I want to be, I’ve decided it is worthwhile to thank people for what they have done for me. People are often perplexed when your behavior towards them changes. You were once consistent and focused and then suddenly you weren’t. Taking time to reflect…

  • An Unexpected Friend

    I went on a job interview today. I went fully prepared to run in and run out. I just knew that I had it in the bag. I knew I’d get a second interview because I am knowledgeable in that field and I am quite passionate about it. I was cocky. I practiced my interview…

  • Accountability

    In December of 2017, I started a new job and things rapidly changed from there. I became engaged to my best friend ( and also probably the only human who can simultaneously make me happy and angry) in January. I moved to a place that I love in March. I started working on my spiritual…

  • Being Sure: When is it REALLY love.

    I think I’ve been super cynical about love and yet in a sad twist, I sort of want to find it. I clearly seek male companionship, and sometimes that comes with emotions. I’ve honestly tried really hard to stay single for that past few years. Yet,somehow I always find myself playing the role of girlfriend…

  • Keyboard Courage

    In american society we are so in love with Political correctness. We chastize people for saying what we are all thinking and we shame other countries for doing exactly what we are doing. Yet when sitting behind our computers, and enjoying the anonymity granted by the internet people show their true colors. I’m sure you’ve…

  • What’s So great about Black love? : Interracial Dating in America

    I find it problematic when people date outside their race because they believe that there is lack within it. I date outside my race because I believe that i can not limit my options if I want to find the best person for me. I date black men and white men and Asian men and…

  • Update: Romantic Love doesn’t exist… its a myth

    Update: Romantic Love doesn’t exist… its a myth

    Call me bitter or pessimistic, but this is the reality of the world we live in. True love doesn’t exist. There are days that I’ve been lead to believe that it never did. I do believe in love as in a platonic or the familial sense… you can love your family and you can love…