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  • Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    “Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking, and relationships, they evolve to survive.”—Liz Ortecho, Roswell, New Mexico, Season 4, Episode 13 That line stopped me mid-scroll. There’s something beautifully raw about the idea that love isn’t static. It doesn’t stay preserved in the form we first found it. It shifts, stretches, and sometimes…

  • AI: the ultimate communications sidekick

    AI: the ultimate communications sidekick

    AI is changing how we communicate, but is it enhancing connection or replacing it? From the phonograph to social media, every technological leap has aimed to bring us closer. AI is no different—it’s a powerful tool for refining and accelerating communication, but at its core, we still look for each other. In this blog, we…

  • A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    At the end of winter 2023, my life was forever changed. My ex-husband left our home under police escort after five years of manipulation, physical, emotional, and financial abuse. I cried. It was both relief and distress. It was grief and joy. It was the sound of freedom ringing loudly, declaring a new chapter, and…

  • Rethinking trust: Is it given or earned?

    Trust shows up in every part of life—whether we realize it or not. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how much trust plays a role in my career, my relationships, and even in the business ideas I’m toying with. We trust people to help us develop our ideas, not steal them. We trust new friends to…

  • Tell your Story! Burn the bridges!

    Hello all. I will preface this with a TW: domestic violence, child abuse. I wanted to share this publicly, not to cause a stir or solicit empathy. I was embarrassed, but now I realize that I have no reason to be embarrassed. I did nothing wrong. I loved people who harmed me and that is…

  • Patience in conflict

    I am bitterly passive aggressive. My family never fought so I ignore, punish, shame people when they wrong me. I am getting better at attacking conflict head on, but I have had to undo some petty things before the other person noticed. I’m starting to understand what good timing looks like. I’m starting to choose…

  • Accountability

    In December of 2017, I started a new job and things rapidly changed from there. I became engaged to my best friend ( and also probably the only human who can simultaneously make me happy and angry) in January. I moved to a place that I love in March. I started working on my spiritual…

  • Being Sure: When is it REALLY love.

    I think I’ve been super cynical about love and yet in a sad twist, I sort of want to find it. I clearly seek male companionship, and sometimes that comes with emotions. I’ve honestly tried really hard to stay single for that past few years. Yet,somehow I always find myself playing the role of girlfriend…

  • What’s So great about Black love? : Interracial Dating in America

    I find it problematic when people date outside their race because they believe that there is lack within it. I date outside my race because I believe that i can not limit my options if I want to find the best person for me. I date black men and white men and Asian men and…