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  • Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking

    “Love is a constant state of breaking and remaking, and relationships, they evolve to survive.”—Liz Ortecho, Roswell, New Mexico, Season 4, Episode 13 That line stopped me mid-scroll. There’s something beautifully raw about the idea that love isn’t static. It doesn’t stay preserved in the form we first found it. It shifts, stretches, and sometimes…

  • What a Pollyanna: embracing realism with a positive mindset in challenging times

    What a Pollyanna: embracing realism with a positive mindset in challenging times

    The term “Pollyanna” has become a bit of a backhanded compliment in today’s culture. Originating from the classic 1960 Disney movie based on Eleanor H. Porter’s novel, Pollyanna tells the story of a young girl whose relentless optimism changes the hearts of everyone around her. Over time, though, “Pollyanna” has taken on a different meaning,…

  • A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    A love remembered: Travel, love, and growth

    At the end of winter 2023, my life was forever changed. My ex-husband left our home under police escort after five years of manipulation, physical, emotional, and financial abuse. I cried. It was both relief and distress. It was grief and joy. It was the sound of freedom ringing loudly, declaring a new chapter, and…

  • Rethinking trust: Is it given or earned?

    Trust shows up in every part of life—whether we realize it or not. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how much trust plays a role in my career, my relationships, and even in the business ideas I’m toying with. We trust people to help us develop our ideas, not steal them. We trust new friends to…

  • Tell your Story! Burn the bridges!

    Hello all. I will preface this with a TW: domestic violence, child abuse. I wanted to share this publicly, not to cause a stir or solicit empathy. I was embarrassed, but now I realize that I have no reason to be embarrassed. I did nothing wrong. I loved people who harmed me and that is…

  • An open Letter to Police Departments around the United States

    Let me say this before you continue, I know it’s not everyone. I know criminals exist. I know people do bad things. I know that some of you are kind and understanding and noble individuals. This is written generally. Thus making it an open letter. so… read on.

  • It’s not that simple

    I have been reading posts that people are writing in regards to suicide. They are all sweet platitudes about how they are here for you and you aren’t alone. I call BS. Here is why. Mental health issues that lead to suicide can not be solved by just getting a hug and talking a walk…

  • Gratitude and Apologies

    As I am working on being healthy and working out who I want to be, I’ve decided it is worthwhile to thank people for what they have done for me. People are often perplexed when your behavior towards them changes. You were once consistent and focused and then suddenly you weren’t. Taking time to reflect…

  • Accountability

    In December of 2017, I started a new job and things rapidly changed from there. I became engaged to my best friend ( and also probably the only human who can simultaneously make me happy and angry) in January. I moved to a place that I love in March. I started working on my spiritual…

  • Being Sure: When is it REALLY love.

    I think I’ve been super cynical about love and yet in a sad twist, I sort of want to find it. I clearly seek male companionship, and sometimes that comes with emotions. I’ve honestly tried really hard to stay single for that past few years. Yet,somehow I always find myself playing the role of girlfriend…